The Iron Rule: Tyranny in the Household

The tears of childhood are soon dried.  Grief is but as the summer rain.  On the next morning, little Andrew’s voice was heard singing over the house, as merrily as ever.  But the sound did not affect, pleasantly, the mind of his father.  He had not forgotten the scene of the previous evening, and was far from having forgiven the disobedience he had punished so severely.  Had Andrew come forth from his chamber silent and with a sober, abashed, and fearful countenance, as if he still bore the weight of his father’s displeasure, Mr. Howland would have felt that he had made some progress in the work of breaking the will of his child.  But to see him moving about and singing as gaily as a bird, discouraged him.

“Have I made no impression on the boy?” he asked himself.

“Father!” said Andrew, running up, with a happy smile upon his face, as these thoughts were passing through the mind of Mr. Howland, “won’t you buy me a pretty book?  Oh!  I want one—­”

“Naughty, disobedient boy!”

These were the words, uttered sternly, and with a forbidding aspect of countenance, that met this affectionate state of mind, and threw the child rudely from his father.

Andrew looked frightened for a moment or two, and then shrunk away.  From that time until his father left the house, his voice was still.  During the morning, he amused himself with his playthings and his little sister, and seemed well contented.  But after dinner he became restless, and often exclaimed—­

“Oh!  I wish I had somebody to play with!”

At length, after sitting by the window and looking out for a long time, he turned to his mother, and said—­

“Mother, can’t I go and see Emily Winters?”

“No, Andrew, of course not,” replied Mrs. Howland.

“Why, mother?  I like her, and she’s good.”

“Because your father doesn’t wish you go to her house.  Didn’t he punish you last evening for going there?”

At this the child grew impatient, and threw himself about with angry gestures.  Then he sat down and cried for a time bitterly, while his mother strove, but in vain, to (sic) sooth him.  For hours his thoughts had been on his little friend, and now he cared for nothing but to see her.  Denied this privilege from mere arbitrary authority, his mind had become fretted beyond his weak ability to control himself.

It was, perhaps, an hour after this, that Mrs. Howland missed Andrew, and fearful that he might have been tempted to disobey the command laid upon him, raised the window and looked into the street.  Just as she did so, she saw him running back toward his home from the house of Mr. Winters, on the steps of which sat Emily.  Entering quickly, she heard him close the street-door with a slight jar, as if he designed making as little noise as possible.

“Where have you been, Andrew?” asked Mrs. Howland as soon as he came up to her room, which he did soon after.

“Down in the kitchen with Jane,” was replied without hesitation.

“Have you been nowhere else?” Mrs. Howland repented having asked this question the moment it passed her lips, and still more when the child answered as unhesitatingly as before, “No, ma’am.”

Here was falsehood added to disobedience!  Poor Mrs. Howland turned her face away to grieve and ponder.  She found herself in a narrow path, and doubtful as to the steps to be taken.  She said nothing more, for she could not see clearly what it was best for her to say; and she did nothing, for she could not see what it was best for her to do.  But she resolved to be watchful over her boy, lest he should again be tempted into disobedience.

The mother’s watchfulness, however, availed not.  Ere night-fall Andrew was with his little friend again.  Unfortunately for him, the pleasure he derived from her society caused him to forget the passing of time, and his stolen delight was, in the end, suddenly dispelled by the stern voice of his father, who passed the door of Mr. Winters on his way homeward.

Slowly and in fear did the child obey the angry command to return home.  He knew that he would be punished with great severity, and he was not mistaken.  He was so punished.  But did this avail anything?  No!  On the next day he asked his mother to let him sit at the front door.

“I’m afraid you’ll go into Mr. Winters,” said Mrs. Howland, in reply.

“Oh, no; indeed I won’t, mother,” was the ready answer.

“If you disobey me, I can’t let you go to the door again.”

“Oh, I won’t disobey you,” replied the child.

“Very well, Andrew, I’ll trust you.  Now, don’t deceive me.”

The child promised over and over again, and Mrs. Howland trusted him.  Ten minutes afterward she looked out, but he (sic) wasnowhere to be seen.  A domestic was sent to the house of Mr. Winters, where Andrew was found, as happy as a child could be, playing with his little friend Emily.  On being reproved by his mother for this act of disobedience, he looked earnestly in her face and said—­

“You won’t tell father, will you?  He’ll whip me so, and I don’t like to be whipped.”

“But why did you go in there?” said Mrs. Howland.  “Haven’t we forbidden you?  And didn’t you promise me that if I’d let you go to the front door, you would stay there?”

“I couldn’t help it, mother,” replied Andrew.

“Oh, yes, you could.”

“Indeed I couldn’t, mother.  I saw Emily, and then I couldn’t help it.”

There was an expression in the child’s voice as he said this, that thrilled the feelings of his mother.  She felt that he spoke only the simple truth—­that he could not help doing as he had done.

“But Andrew must help it,” she was constrained to reply.  “Mother can’t let him go to the front door again.”

“You won’t tell father, will you?” urged the child, lifting, earnestly, his large, bright, innocent eyes to his mother’s face.  “Say, you won’t tell him?”

Grieved, perplexed, and troubled, Mrs. Howland knew not what to say, nor how to act.

“Dear mother!” urged the boy, “you won’t tell father?  Say you won’t?” And tears began to glisten beneath his eyelids.

“Andrew has been disobedient,” said the mother, trying to assume an offended tone.  “Will he be so anymore?”

“If you won’t tell father, I’ll be good.”

The mother sighed, and fixed her gaze musingly on the floor.  Her thoughts were still more confused, and her mind in still greater perplexity.  Ah, if she only knew what was right!

“I will not tell your father this time,” she at length said, “but don’t ask me, if you are again disobedient.”

But of what avail was the child’s promises.  He had strong feelings, a strong will, and, though so very young, much endurance.  A law, at variance almost with a law of his nature, had been arbitrarily enacted, and he could not obey it.  As well might his father have shut him up, hungry, in a room filled with tempting food, and commanded him not to touch or taste it.  Had an allegation of evil conduct been brought against Emily Winters; had any right reason for the interdiction been given, then Mr. Howland might have had some power over the strong will and stronger inclinations of the child.  But into the mind of Andrew, young as he was, came a sense of injustice and wrong on the part of his father, and there was no willingness, from filial duty, to yield obedience in a case where every feeling of his heart was at variance with the command.

The struggle so early commenced between the father and his child, was an unceasing one.  The will of Andrew, which by other treatment might have been bent to obedience, gained a vigor like the young oak amid storms, in the strife and reaction of his daily life.  Instead of drawing his child to him, there was ever about Mr. Howland a sphere of repulsion.  Andrew was always doing something to offend his father; and his father was in consequence always offended.  A kind word from paternal lips rarely touched the ears of the boy, and, but for the love of his gentle mother, home would have been almost intolerable.  Steadily, against all opposition, chidings, and punishment, Andrew would seek the company of his little friend Emily on every convenient occasion.  To avoid the consequences he would practice deception, and utter direct falsehood without compunction or hesitation.  At last, after a struggle of two years, even the father became wearied and discouraged at the perseverance of his child; and there came a suggestion to his mind, that probably, to continue as he had been going on for so long a time, would do more harm than good.  It requires no little self-denial for a man like Andrew Howland to yield in such a contention, and let the will of his child remain unbroken.  But, after a long debate with himself, his better conviction triumphed over prejudice and the tenacity of a mind fixed in its own opinions.  He ceased to command obedience in the case of Emily Winters, and therefore ceased to punish Andrew on her account.  Nevertheless, he rarely saw him in her company that the displeasure he felt was not manifested by a frown, or some word that smote painfully upon the ear of his child.

Possessing an active, independent mind, Andrew failed not to excite the displeasure of his father in many ways.  In fact he was always in disgrace from some cause or other and the subject of angry reproof, harsh judgment, or direct punishment.  Often his conduct needed reproof and even punishment; but he was the victim of such frequent wrong judgment and unjust reproof and punishment, that by the time he was eleven years of age, he looked upon his father more as a persecuting tyrant than a kind parent, who sincerely desired his good.  An instance of wrong judgment and unjust punishment we will here give.

As Andrew grew older and formed school boy associations, his impulsive and rather reckless character brought him frequently into collision with his companions, and he gained a reputation which was by no means good.  Every now and then some one would complain to Mr. Howland of his bad conduct, when he, taking all for granted, would, without investigation, visit the offence with severe punishment.

One day, when in his twelfth year, as Andrew was at play during a recess in the school hour, a boy larger than himself made an angry attack upon a lad much below him in size, and was abusing him severely, when Andrew, acting from a brave and generous impulse, ran to the rescue of the smaller boy, and, in a sudden onset, freed him from the hands of his assailant.  Maddened at this interference. the larger boy turned fiercely upon him.  But Andrew was active, and kept out of his way.  Still the larger boy pursued him, using all the while the most violent threats.  At length finding that he was likely to be caught and get roughly handled, Andrew took up a stone, and drawing back his hand, warned the boy not to approach.  He continued to approach, however, vowing, as he did so, that he would beat the life half out of him.  True to his word, and in self-defence, Andrew threw the stone, which struck the boy full on the forehead and knocked him down.  For some minutes he lay stunned and half-insensible.  Frightened at the consequences of his act, Andrew sprung to the side of the fallen lad and tried to raise him up.  Failing in this he ran for the teacher, who was in the school-room.  A little cold water thrown into the boy’s face revived him, when he went home to his parents.  The teacher made careful inquiries into the matter, which satisfied him that Andrew was not very greatly to blame.

A short time after this occurrence, a gentleman entered the store of Andrew’s father, and said, with much excitement of manner,

“Mr. Howland!  I’ve come to make complaint against that boy of yours.”

“Against Andrew?”

“Yes, sir.  He’s nearly killed my son!”

“Bless me!” exclaimed Mr. Howland, in a distressed voice.  “What has happened?  How did he do it?”

“Why, sir! without the slightest provocation, he took up a large stone and struck my boy with it on the forehead, knocking him down senseless.  I have had to send for the doctor.  It may cost him his life.”

“Oh dear! dear!  What will become of that boy?” exclaimed Mr. Howland, wringing his hands, and moving up and down the floor uneasily.  “Knocked him down with a stone, you say?”

“Yes sir And that without any (sic) provoeation.  I can’t stand this.  I must, at least, protect the lives of my children.  Every week I have had some complaint against your son; (sic) bnt I didn’t wish to have a difficulty, and so said nothing about it.  But this is going a little too far.  He must have a dreadful temper.”

“There is something very perverse about him,” remarked Mr. Howland, sadly.  “Ah, me!  What am I to do?”

“There may have been some slight provocation,” said the man, a little modified by the manner in which his complaint was received, and departing from his first assertion.

“Nothing to justify an assault like this,” replied Mr. Howland with promptness.  “Nothing!  Nothing!  The boy will be the death of me.”

“Caution him, if you please, Mr. Howland, against a repetition of such dangerous conduct.  The result might be deplorable.”

“I will do something more than caution him, you may be sure,” was answered, and, as he spoke, the lips of Mr. Howland were drawn tightly across his teeth.

The man went away, and Mr. Howland dispatched a messenger to the school for Andrew immediately, and then started for home.  He had been there only a little while, when the boy came in with a frightened look.  To his father’s eyes conscious guilt was in his countenance.

“Go up stairs, sir!” was the stern salutation that met the lad’s ears.

“Father, I—­”

“Silence, sir!  Don’t let me hear a word out of your head!”

The boy shrunk away and went up to his own room in the third story, whither his angry father immediately followed him.

“Now, sir, take off your jacket!” said Mr. Howland who had a long, thick rattan in his hand.

“Indeed father,” pleaded the child, “I wasn’t to blame.  Bill Wilkins—­”

“Silence, sir!  I want none of your lying excuses!  I know you!  I’ve talked to you often enough about quarreling and throwing stones.”

“But, father—­”

“Off with your jacket, this instant!  Do (sic) your hear me?

“Oh, father!  Let me speak!  I couldn’t—­”

“Not a word, I say!  I know all about it!” silenced the pleading boy.  His case was prejudged, and he was now in the hands of the executioner.  Slowly, and with trembling hands, the poor child removed his outer garment, his pale face growing paler every moment, and then submitting himself to the cruel rod that checkered his back with smarting welts.  Under a sense of wrong, his proud spirit refused to his body a single cry of pain.  Manfully he bore his unjust chastisement, while every stroke obliterated some yet remaining emotion of respect and love for his father, who, satisfied at length with strokes and upbraiding, threw the boy from him with the cutting words—­

“I shall yet have to disown you!” and turning away left the apartment.